tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post6562618231899745600..comments2023-12-06T14:39:25.446+05:30Comments on of this and that: Hypocrite? Me? Yes.dipalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01070862196307376073noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-83478974729181642122008-09-23T18:38:00.000+05:302008-09-23T18:38:00.000+05:30@d: what would I do without you? This blog wouldn'...@d: what would I do without you? This blog wouldn't exist, for sure!dipalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01070862196307376073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-81246677069594587852008-09-23T18:24:00.000+05:302008-09-23T18:24:00.000+05:30but by the end of your post i do like you very muc...but by the end of your post i do like you very much! for all the reasons cited by the commenters above me!<BR/>dAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-24257872034058055062008-09-23T15:05:00.000+05:302008-09-23T15:05:00.000+05:30@everyone: One silly little episode had me so angr...@everyone: One silly little episode had me so angry- and the words that came into my head were so full of deep seated prejudice- words like 'jaahil' and 'ganwaar'.<BR/>She was manifestly rude and inconsiderate. I was not.<BR/>But it made me realise that if my personal space was breached, and my place in the world as I perceived it was challenged, all my concern for my disadvantaged fellowmen was little more than lip service.<BR/>@2b's mom: Only Oz, if we get the visas. Though I would have loved to meet you. When do you come next to India?dipalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01070862196307376073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-90419131344835816222008-09-23T09:40:00.000+05:302008-09-23T09:40:00.000+05:30I agree with Usha's POV here. Angered at the ruden...I agree with Usha's POV here. Angered at the rudeness, yes but kind of understand where its coming from. At the same time wouldn't beat myself up for the same.Neerahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02908239217422161292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-86116115289891238412008-09-22T20:52:00.000+05:302008-09-22T20:52:00.000+05:30I don't think you've been a hypocrite, Dipali. Wha...I don't think you've been a hypocrite, Dipali. What you felt is the normal human reaction to rudeness.Mystic Margaritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10043803636315553905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-39928306988632251542008-09-22T15:36:00.000+05:302008-09-22T15:36:00.000+05:30Unfortunately, these people have a major chip on t...Unfortunately, these people have a major chip on their shoulder about us - if you had objected she would have said in a loud rude voice that the memsahib should travel by her car if she has nakhrasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-26654654216896461572008-09-22T09:30:00.000+05:302008-09-22T09:30:00.000+05:30There are many reasons why people behave like this...There are many reasons why people behave like this in buses. It isn't always the very poor and uneducated but even others. <BR/>One is, as you have said, that resentment: "Oh the memsaab thinks she owns the bus. If she wanted comfort she should take a cab. In a bus we have all paid the fare and it is strictly on a first come first served basis. So I deserve What I have got and too bad you are not comfortable."<BR/>The other is total blindness. Their life is so devoid of comfort and courtesy that they do not see why others should complain about their discomfort once in a way. It is probably one of the rare days when she has actually got a seat in the bus and enough space for the two of them and she doesn't see why she should give it up.<BR/>Whichever be the case, all of us who practice such small courtesies in our lives, would have been angry at this kind of behaviour. So why feel that you are a hypocrite?<BR/><BR/>Nice post.Ushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-78630257179356914422008-09-21T23:14:00.000+05:302008-09-21T23:14:00.000+05:30Very honest. But your self-criticism is no doubt, ...Very honest. But your self-criticism is no doubt, uncalled for.<BR/>However, I value your opinion about your own introspection.<BR/><BR/>Did i tell you ever that I love reading your posts for the mixture of humor and sincerity?Mampihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02151567171626446275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-39400318127621615732008-09-21T20:41:00.000+05:302008-09-21T20:41:00.000+05:30I don't see your 'hypocrisy'; I do see honesty and...I don't see your 'hypocrisy'; I do see honesty and being human.<BR/><BR/>So what if you were seething inwardly? You didn't show it by being rude to her in return, and that counts for a lot.mummyjaanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11439816857061091370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-23520283247127761862008-09-21T17:49:00.000+05:302008-09-21T17:49:00.000+05:30Don't be hard on yourself. We all exsperience thes...Don't be hard on yourself. We all exsperience these feelings at some point in time.<BR/><BR/>She was rude to you. And no matter what her back-ground, that is not acceptable...we all know what common courtesy is.Mamma mia! Me a mamma?https://www.blogger.com/profile/04136269509737254271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-32829689432019608702008-09-21T16:50:00.000+05:302008-09-21T16:50:00.000+05:30I think all of us go through a feeling of guilt at...I think all of us go through a feeling of guilt at being well-off and having priveleges, but so what? I mean, there are people in the world who are very priveleged and yet can be rude and sarcastic and unfeeling. Atleast you are able to rationalize this lady's behavior, but what if you had encountered similar behaviour from a really rich woman? <BR/><BR/>Sometimes random strangers get the "benefit" of intransigence!Cuckoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13697563902061372977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-28207467476926699662008-09-21T16:05:00.000+05:302008-09-21T16:05:00.000+05:30Reminded me of that forward I got or was that a pa...Reminded me of that forward I got or was that a part of a post on someone's blog...can't remember but it was something like this:<BR/>"A women is waiting at airport in the waiting lounge, takes out a packet of biscuit and puts it next to her, picks one bikkie and eats. The man sitting next to her takes one bisuit and eats, it goes on...everytime she picks one, the man picks one too. It infuriates her so much and the last straw being when the man picks up the last cracker, halves it and gives one half to her and eats the other half. This lady is now feeling disgusted at this behaviour from an educated man. She boards the flight and when she starts looking for her glasses in her bag, she finds her packet of crackers in it!"<BR/><BR/>I so admire your honesty Dipali !<BR/><BR/>BTW, just read your last post too and learnt that you have applied for Aussie visa...are you planning to visit NZ too ? Just curious.Indian in NZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11775633461738007949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-59676259666631815112008-09-21T12:58:00.000+05:302008-09-21T12:58:00.000+05:30Dipali, All of us are guilty of contradictory feel...Dipali, All of us are guilty of contradictory feelings. I don't think the hypocricy lies in you getting angry with this woman. But in the fact that you couldn't react to her openly, as you would have if she were your equal. <BR/><BR/>Your honesty about yourself is admirable.Bannohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03855784743978203037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-66575560013823344952008-09-21T10:13:00.000+05:302008-09-21T10:13:00.000+05:30In Kolkata people are normally accomodating and no...In Kolkata people are normally accomodating and nobody would be allowed to let a small child hog any percentage space of a seat. But that is because people from mostly all strata use public transport , barring a very small privileged minority. <BR/>However in your case the lady in question was very confident that she could be rude to you and get away with it because you wouldnt have taken her on at her gameAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14157665564024320442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-35900304929127248742008-09-21T09:01:00.000+05:302008-09-21T09:01:00.000+05:30ha! i am a hypocrite too. people are usually shock...ha! i am a hypocrite too. people are usually shocked when i make this statement. but its the honest truth!Preeti Aghalayam aka kbpmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11829919187093167561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-1006483673536876012008-09-21T09:00:00.000+05:302008-09-21T09:00:00.000+05:30So you are critising yourself because somebody els...So you are critising yourself because somebody else was rude to you?<BR/><BR/>I have travelled countless journeys with a toddler on top of me and yes, it's a pain having a restless child atop you. But none of these disadvantaged ppl would ever let me keep my baby next to me on a seat.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10819608939555247317noreply@blogger.com