tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post2750409489673931424..comments2023-12-06T14:39:25.446+05:30Comments on of this and that: The other face of kind and loving mendipalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01070862196307376073noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-84458606443769486492013-01-21T22:02:43.752+05:302013-01-21T22:02:43.752+05:30How true and sad :(How true and sad :(Neerahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02908239217422161292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-37956077856733974262013-01-19T23:11:05.199+05:302013-01-19T23:11:05.199+05:30@bird's eye view: That's a great line!@bird's eye view: That's a great line!dipalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01070862196307376073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-20197284145807946032013-01-19T22:08:33.816+05:302013-01-19T22:08:33.816+05:30Well said Dipali. There was a nice line in Grey...Well said Dipali. There was a nice line in Grey's Anatomy the other day abput how there is a difference between being supported and respected. Unfortunately most indian women get neither:-(bird's eye viewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01338332150874851183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-14929698282021601042013-01-19T21:13:23.466+05:302013-01-19T21:13:23.466+05:30it is soul destroying, these horrendous attitudes,...it is soul destroying, these horrendous attitudes, which we have to fight at every available forum, and new ones too. All strength to you, my friend.dipalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01070862196307376073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-14850761008137564032013-01-19T21:00:25.037+05:302013-01-19T21:00:25.037+05:30Just yesterday a 'friend' posted in my FB ...Just yesterday a 'friend' posted in my FB page about how even if it is not the victims fault all the time - it is the fault of the women who let themselves be 'commoditised' and work skimpy clothes etc...and thereby aroused the men who then raped the nearest vulnerable woman. I have put it decently here. The words on my page are pretty crude. And this was by a women herself! :(<br /><br />All these months of debate and talk about how it is not the fault of women if they get raped, has fallen by the wayside when women themselves think like this - still!!! I'm, so depressed - wanted to just ignore it but I think the larger issue is more important than my freiednship alone - so am gonna argue this stand with her. give me strength....Peccavinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-7136579104477600212011-11-07T13:12:18.775+05:302011-11-07T13:12:18.775+05:30Loved this post Dipali.
//watchful eyes that fol...Loved this post Dipali. <br /><br />//watchful eyes that follow her every move// Not just the family, but the entire community feels they have a right to see that a young woman stays 'in control', it's so common for neighbors and acquaintances to inform the parents if they feel their daughter is 'crossing her limits' :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-82388078290007747802011-11-01T11:04:41.844+05:302011-11-01T11:04:41.844+05:30Thank you. You spoke for many of us. SumanaThank you. You spoke for many of us. SumanaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-91934969276113275292011-11-01T02:14:40.030+05:302011-11-01T02:14:40.030+05:30well said!well said!sukanyahttp://sukanyabora.wordpress.com/author/sukanyabora/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-28319377525014129972011-10-31T12:29:40.256+05:302011-10-31T12:29:40.256+05:30Very well written, Dipali!
It is sad that parents...Very well written, Dipali!<br /><br />It is sad that parents who are supposed to be the pillar of strength and support for these women turn into abusers themselves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-31030974176541421202011-10-31T11:44:19.261+05:302011-10-31T11:44:19.261+05:30Your title says it all, really.Your title says it all, really.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10819608939555247317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-2060317744529095742011-10-30T14:09:49.613+05:302011-10-30T14:09:49.613+05:30So melancholic.. beautiful.
Thank you.
Made me t...So melancholic.. beautiful. <br />Thank you.<br /><br />Made me think of Khalil Gibran's poem on parenting.<br /><br /> http://www.katsandogz.com/onchildren.htmlTowards Harmonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12503173128375138528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-22223622363459144062011-10-30T12:54:33.687+05:302011-10-30T12:54:33.687+05:30'Guide your children well, dear sirs,
your son...'Guide your children well, dear sirs,<br />your sons and your daughters........<br />guide them and teach them and trust them,<br />and let them go out into the world<br />Well armed with wisdom and courage<br />with faith in you, and faith in your love.'<br /><br />Very well said. Why can't parents be supportive? Very often a girl makes a choice that parents don't approve of. She is abused but cannot come back to her parents for help because they were against the match. <br /><br />Instead they could do a background check on the boy and if they found something amiss they could at least warn her. If they didn't and things went wrong later the girl would at least know that she could always turn to them for help. <br /><br />And if the marriage worked well - isn't it what they ought to look for in a marriage rather than family honor?Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-54369985715638949112011-10-30T12:50:10.106+05:302011-10-30T12:50:10.106+05:30Cannot agree more.Cannot agree more.Orange Jammieshttp://orangejammies.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-4259744897744421732011-10-29T19:54:05.516+05:302011-10-29T19:54:05.516+05:30@Banno: It is absolutely sickening:(
Sad to say, i...@Banno: It is absolutely sickening:(<br />Sad to say, in our great country, falling in love is still strongly disapproved of by the vast majority. And then they often act upon this disapproval.dipalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01070862196307376073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-42246762367078068112011-10-28T08:23:31.709+05:302011-10-28T08:23:31.709+05:30Dipali, of course, it is always the women who are ...Dipali, of course, it is always the women who are responsible for keeping the family honour pure. How many lives are ruined in the name of family honour, even when there is no physical violence involved.Bannohttp://batulm.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.com