tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post5528165040513282687..comments2023-12-06T14:39:25.446+05:30Comments on of this and that: Beyond Biology- broadening the concept of parentingdipalihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01070862196307376073noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-50767297245123636552010-01-29T08:04:20.231+05:302010-01-29T08:04:20.231+05:30@ A Muser: Absolutely. Especially when it is far m...@ A Muser: Absolutely. Especially when it is far more a matter of choice than ever before.dipalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01070862196307376073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-23272695325385512222010-01-28T00:27:21.466+05:302010-01-28T00:27:21.466+05:30Wonderful post, Dipali! I agree completely. I have...Wonderful post, Dipali! I agree completely. I have a friend who's been married for three years now, but isn't sure she ever wants to be a parent. She's perfectly happy with her life right now and feels no compulsion to reproduce. So why should she? I feel that motherhood is very fulfilling, but it's a personal thing, and no woman should feel she absolutely needs to be a mom to get fulfillment.A Muserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12132780122731029205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-63270014562564599922009-12-31T22:34:25.497+05:302009-12-31T22:34:25.497+05:30@Rayna M. Iyer: Thanks. Awareness of adoption need...@Rayna M. Iyer: Thanks. Awareness of adoption needs to be increased.<br />@Phoenixritu: What a wonderful culture that is!<br />@Sue: Yo! (Hugs the Sue right back)<br />@Sangi: Glad to see you here! I visited your blog from Starry's.<br />@@lankrita: Absolutely!<br />@starry eyed: Yes, how we deal with our children is what is important.<br />@Aneela: People have the most stupid excuses for not adopting:(<br />@hip grandma: "motherhood is a blend of so many qualities mixed in the right proportion" Well said!<br />@churning the wordmill: Adoption really needs to be encouraged!dipalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01070862196307376073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-30083564304194561892009-12-30T22:32:08.021+05:302009-12-30T22:32:08.021+05:30totally agree to u there,dipali.. we shud actually...totally agree to u there,dipali.. we shud actually be looking at parenthood as a matter of choice..not as a forced outcome of social pressures..parenting takes a LOT so it makes sense to take ur time to decide about it.. <br />it doesnt matter whether the child was born biologically or adopted...for the child those parents are as real as parents are for biological children..likewise for the parents.. i think it makes soooo much more sense to adopt out of choice instead of putting urself thru torturous treatments..all the adopted kids i have seen are happy,well settled..Mandirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15683865681766299232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-553581201393461532009-12-23T22:39:58.491+05:302009-12-23T22:39:58.491+05:30I agree with you. Becoming a mother is easy. You c...I agree with you. Becoming a mother is easy. You can produce a child or adopt one. Being a mother is a tough job. Like a well prepared dish has to have a blend of all flavors and tastes in the right proportion so that no single aspect stands out so also motherhood is a blend of so many qualties mixed in the right proportion.A happy New year to you and yours.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-25836524670525939192009-12-23T14:43:56.412+05:302009-12-23T14:43:56.412+05:30and/or your own. i will not blame the mommy brain ...and/or your own. i will not blame the mommy brain for being typing dyslexicAneela Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15266036533025907163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-60423438795492116692009-12-23T14:13:50.246+05:302009-12-23T14:13:50.246+05:30i second sue...adopted kids rock (and not just for...i second sue...adopted kids rock (and not just for dish tv ads). I think most of the excuses ppl offer are plain silly. one " well wisher' had said oh no one would feel bad if one ever slapped/scolded an adopted kid harshly, someone else's kid and all and you can be strict with your own kid without a guilty conscience, and I was wondering why discipline a kid so severely (and your own) in the first place.Aneela Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15266036533025907163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-48231471406838652532009-12-22T22:02:47.463+05:302009-12-22T22:02:47.463+05:30Thanks for linking up Dipali! A very sensitively w...Thanks for linking up Dipali! A very sensitively written post. I often feel bad for the women who want to adopt and are prevented by their husbands and parents/in-laws who say they cannot love the child "like their own". I wish people didn't close their minds like this. <br /><br />On the other hand well begun is half done...just giving birth or adopting is only the beginning. it's what parents do after that that is way more important!<br /><br />And oh, how wonderfully you have expressed the thought of a community caring for its children. This 'them' vs us mentality has to be stopped. If we could remove all the taboos and red tape, every child would be enfolded in the warm loving support of a family...sigh, maybe someday!starry eyedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02821016011330573083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-62966411771826176642009-12-22T20:22:57.312+05:302009-12-22T20:22:57.312+05:30More than agree. I also think that just birthing a...More than agree. I also think that just birthing a child is not parenting it either.Dr. Ally Critterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04191162451745534259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-83256768287157511722009-12-22T16:58:21.100+05:302009-12-22T16:58:21.100+05:30Came to your blog via Starsinmeeyes, Dipali. Abso...Came to your blog via Starsinmeeyes, Dipali. Absolutely agree with your thoughts. Adoption is also a choice now for people who are biologically able to produce children - lending teeth to the belief that parenting is a process that goes way beyond the 9 months of pregnancy.<br /><br />Also, Khalil Gibran had it right when he said (and I paraphrase) that children only pass through us, we only facilitate the process of their independence. No child is a belonging.Sangithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15131724168098054004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-46841804512811532622009-12-22T15:39:18.210+05:302009-12-22T15:39:18.210+05:30*hugs Dipali*
Adopted kids rock, especially girls...*hugs Dipali*<br /><br />Adopted kids rock, especially girls.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10819608939555247317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-66335871282036698952009-12-22T15:14:38.638+05:302009-12-22T15:14:38.638+05:30Did you know that in North East India, there is no...Did you know that in North East India, there is no such thing as an orphan? The bereaved child is simply taken into a neighbor's home. They have a very strong sense of community which sadly is lacking in our so called developed worldPhoenixrituhttp://www.phoenixritu.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6089956061483501286.post-69106445597884974732009-12-22T12:15:23.317+05:302009-12-22T12:15:23.317+05:30Lovely post, Dipali.
I know four sets of adoptive...Lovely post, Dipali.<br /><br />I know four sets of adoptive parents, and they all adopted because they realised that it made more sense to do so than to go through very painful fertility treatments. <br /><br />Wish more people were aware of the choice.Natashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00481081735923606868noreply@blogger.com